Just some random thoughts on the troubles so many are facing today. I, myself, try to keep things in perspective as much as possible. When my girls were teenagers and would whine (which did not happen often) about something, they would get the 'short' lecture of "Do you have two arms? (Yes) Do you have two legs? (Yes) Do you have cancer or any other disease? (No) Okay then." So I must continue my own lecture for myself while I admire the women around me who have strength and seem to endure.
The company where Tool Man (hubby) works just laid off more people last week. A company of over 200 is now down to 5o. If the economy does not get better very soon, the plant where Tool Man is employed will close. If that is the case, I'm not sure what we will do. You see, this has already happened to us before. We barely survived the first time.
It was a bad week when it happened. I owned a gift shop and franchise. I was closing my doors after struggling for two years after 9/11. The economy changed very drastically then. As I was packing in defeat, we received a call that my mother-in-law was sick. Tool Man quickly went back to our home state, where she passed away. I threw the rest of my shop in boxes, made arrangements, and went to be with family. I became ill during the funeral and shortened my trip so I wouldn't be a burden and because I couldn't get through to my doctor back home. Later I found out my doctor's cancer returned (after having a mastectomy a few years earlier). She quickly left her practice to be with her husband and two young girls.
When Tool Man returned home and went back to work that Monday, he was given the news that his plant would soon close. They decided to move to China. So we faced closing my business, him losing his job, the death of my mother-in-law, me getting sick, and cancer returning to a person I truly admired all in ONE week.
That was a lot of stress. Yet as we may go through the possible loss of employment again, I look and reflect on the lives of other women I would like to share with you.
Mary-She lives a very basic life and is a hard worker. She was one of those let go from the company on Friday. She cried as she told Tool Man that she could find another job. She did not think she could find such good friends as him and the others. I still worry about her and for her.
Audra-I met her recently while we were doing volunteer work. She has a twelve year old son. She has a twelve year old son who the doctors say will never progress past the capacity of a one year old. And like any mother who truly loves her child, she says the doctors are wrong. He is in a wheelchair, does not speak, wears diapers, and has health problems. She did get a little teary eyed when she told me her husband just went totally blind. This is a beautiful woman in her thirties and she is doing volunteer work. I waited until I got in my car to cry.
Susan-She is my former doctor who was just too cool for words. I was so happy to find her. Then cancer came and put her as the patient, not the doctor, fighting for her life. She went through removing the cancer only for it to reappear and take over her life.
Linda-My sister-in-law saved many children as a critical care nurse. She passed away within the last year and left behind a 19 year old son with no parents. Linda's husband died of cancer when my nephew was only a baby. My nephew never had the opportunity to know his father and now his mother is also gone. I miss Linda.
I hope this post is not a downer. I want to put it in perspective. There is always someone in need more so than ourselves. I just want all of us to quit focusing on what we don't have and on what we do have. After all...is it not the month of November, the month to be thankful?
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